So last week (on the 4th I think) I posed a question I have been struggling with (read it here)…
When we love others long term, in what direction should our love lead?
I’m talking specifically about mentoring type relationships I often find myself in. It usually starts with helping someone out financially. I buy them food, or help them pay off a bill, or pay for something at court for them. Then as I follow up the needs escalate. They have more crisis. I try to love them through it. Until finally I get tired and they start taking advantage.
It doesn’t always head that way; but that is the norm.
So I’ve been mulling this around and I think I have an answer finally.
If I were mentoring someone to start their own Thingy I would be living our Core Principles with them. We would be meeting weekly and walking them through together, focusing on one at a time, trying to improve our efforts at loving God and loving people.
I think my goal, as I love people through disastrous times, needs to be to get them to a place where they also can focus on loving God and loving others. As I help, this always needs to be on the front of my service, “Where do you need to be so you can focus in our loving God and loving other?”